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  • Lost Immortals Ep 161 24.4.22 with Roy Stannard and Matt Staples on Burgess Hill Radio 103.8FM

    THE LOST IMMORTALS – EXPANDING YOUR MUSICAL HORIZONS https://anchor.fm/roy-stannard/episodes/Lost-Immortals-Ep-161-24-4-22-with-Roy-Stannard-and-Matt-Staples-on-Burgess-Hill-Radio-103-8FM-e1hjq3g Ep 161 24.4.22 5-7pm on Burgess Hill Community Radio103.8FM with Roy Stannard and Matthew Staples www.burgesshillradio.co.uk/listenlive Like Brighton‘s West Pier some songs survive through the years, unloved and neglected until suddenly they are re-discovered and retrieve their beauty, but in a totally different way. Like seagulls Read more

  • Standing at the doorway of the year (what I’m doing next)

    Waiting for stars to come into alignment, precursor angels to whisper in our ear and a sense of imminent goodness to happen. Sure, 2010 was a tough year and some aspirations have had to be put on a ventilator for a while – but day by day that infant we call hope will grow imperceptibly… Read more

  • Time to Leave the Basement

    Our brains, like our homes, contain comfortable areas that we don’t like leaving – even when it’s bad for us. Somethimes it takes a fire to propel us towards the Skylight Question.. Read more

  • The Trouble with Rock Pools

    A poem on life and depth by Roy Stannard Read more

  • Extinguishing the desire to smoke

    You are not a ‘smoker’, you are someone who smokes. After four hours of coaching Miss Y was set to go, but something seemed not to be right. It was clear that she still harboured a desire to have a cigarette and that this was troubling her. The smoking habit had become a barrier to Read more

  • Off the map?

    How often have you heard the expression ‘it’s off the map’, or ‘I haven’t planned for this’, or ‘there is no routemap for what I am going through?’ The language of life often delineates where we go and what we are prepared to try. ‘That’s off limits’, or ‘don’t go there’ have far more impact Read more

  • Loose tongues – can you trust what your voice is saying about you?

    What do people hear – you or your voice? Is your voice saying things about you without you knowing? As someone who didn’t speak until I was five years old and who has intermittently lost my voice at times of stress in my life, I am interested in matters of the voice. What does your Read more

  • Work Life Balance. Debunked.

      For years now I have been driven into by well-meaning NLP practitioners behind their Life Balance Wheel, determined to get me to score every aspect of my life in a harmonic way. The point of this exercise is to throw into sharp relief elements of my everyday existence out of kilter with the rest. The metaphor being Read more

  • Writing a letter of application using Auto-Response Psychology

    A young friend of mine called Mark asked me to look over a letter of application he is writing for a Grad job in the City. It was a good letter, full of earnest expressions of enthusiasm for the job he was applying for, direct and honest about his achievements to date. Anyone reading it Read more

  • Who’s to blame?

    We live in a blame culture. If we fail our exams, it’s the fault of the teacher – or it could be the environment we grew up in, or the school. If we trip over a jutting flagstone, then it’s the fault of the Council and we reach for the solicitor’s telephone number. If we Read more